Signals of Attraction, IOI's

Signals of attraction, Indications of Interest - whatever you like to call them, they are all the non-verbal signals that a woman will give you before and during flirtation, if she is attracted to you.
Let's have a look at some of them:


In a study of 200 girls by NM Moore in 1985, 52 different IOI's were noted.

 

I've noted that women will combine these movements. I was sitting with a woman facing me in a bar recently and she did the following. She leaned (Lean) across the table somewhat then raised up her head towards me (Neck Presentation) then she put her arms to her side which actually pushed her breasts out a little more than previously. 

Mystery, the well known celebrity pickup artist, cites in his book The Mystery Method  the following list of Indicator's of Interest

She mirrors your body movements and posture.
She moves in close to you
She reinitiates conversations when you stop talking
*She giggles
*She touches you
*She tries to get rapport and build comfort with you
*She looks back and glances at you repeatedly ever minute or so
*She tosses her hair (to see if you will look)
*If eye contact happens from a distance, she holds it for a second
*She smiles at you
*She stands nearby (proximity)
*She interrupts your conversation from nearby or laughs at something you said
*While walking by, she turns her body toward you or brushes against you
*She says something to her friend and they both giggle
*She asks you for a light or the time or in any way initiates a conversation
*While you're talking to her group, she is particularly talkative (to get your attention)
*She asks you for your name
*She asks you your age (make her guess)
*She compliments you
*She is playful and tries to challenge you
*She's disagreeing but laughing
*She's punching your arm but laughing
*She uses nicknames for you
*She plays with her hair while talking to you
*When she is sitting next to you her leg touches yours
*She repeatedly touches you in any way
*She asks if you have a girlfriend
*She mentions your girlfriend without knowing if you actually have one
*When she has to go to the bathroom, she comes back
*She holds eye contact for longer periods of time when she speaks with you
*She avoids mentioning her boyfriend
*If it comes up that you like somthing, she mentions that she likes it, too, or needs someone to show her how to do it
*When she says or does something, she looks at you to see your reaction
*She looks at you from the side, to hide the fact that she's looking
*She introduces you to friends
*She buys you a drink
*She calls you a player or a heartbreaker
*On her way out, she reapproaches you to tell you that she is leaving (Get her #)
*On your way out, she asks you where you are going (Invite her)
*She returns your calls
*She invents reasons to be near you, intereact with you, or have isolation with you
Passive IOIs
*Her friends go (to the bathroom or bar or dancing) but she stays
*She moves to see you and hangs with you for extended periods
*If you move, she follows you or waits for you
*She doesn't flinch or pull back if you happen to get too close
*She doesn't resist when you escalate physically (or she gives token resistence to avoid feeling like a slut)
The most important IOIs to look for are:
*She reinitiates conversation when you stop talking
*She giggles
*She touches you
*She tries to get rapport and build comfort with you

And here's Robert Greene in the Art of Seduction differentiating between flirting signals and get lost ones.

I'M INTERESTED...............................DON’T BOTHER ME
Sidelong glance(s)............................Never sneaks a peek
Looks at you a few times...................Fleeting eye contact
Holds your gaze briefly......................Looks away quickly
Downcast eyes, then away.................Looks away, eyes level
Posture changes to alert....................Posture unchanged
Preens, adjusts hair, attire.................Does no preening
Turns body toward you......................Turns body away
Tilts head.........................................Head remains vertical
Narrows eyes slightly........................Eyes remain normal
Smiles.............................................Neutral, polite face
Matches your posture........................Posture unchanged
Eyes sparkle.....................................Normal or dull eyes
Licks her lips.....................................Keeps mouth closed
Thrusts breasts.................................Sags to de-emphasize breasts 

 

KEEP TALKING.......................MOVE ON
Alert, energetic.......................Tense, restless
Pupils dilated..........................Normal or small pupils
Gradually opens posture..........Posture remains closed
Lowers drink...........................Keeps drink high
Touches self gently..................Grips or pinches self
Caresses objects.....................Squeezes, taps objects
Crosses and uncrosses legs......Legs remain crossed
Flashes of palm.......................Back of hand gestures
Crossed legs steady................Swings crossed legs
Dangles shoe on toe................Keeps shoe on
Hands never touch face...........Touches face
Touches you any reason......... Never touches you
Feet firmly on floor................. Feet on edges or toes
Loosens anything....................Tightens anything
Leans forward.........................Leans away
Steady hands, feet..................Tapping, drumming
 

You absolutely know you're in when
-she puts her hand on your leg
-licks her lips when talking to (credit Jester)
-she tries to grab your attention constantly (credit Jester)
-she grabs your crotch or ass (credit acqyr)
-you can see her giving you the doggy dinner bowl eyes (credit X-Ice)
-she takes your cell phone without warning and she put her phone number in (credit Top Gun)