When you are at home you scratch, fart and walk around unshaven shouting at the TV as your team loses (again). When you are in the office, you are groomed, polite, helpful.
Which one of these is 'yourself'? Neither. They are simply situational behaviours. You behave one way at work, another with your granny and another at home in your apartment. Who you actually are is a discovery you make as you get older and a bit of an enigma. It is not how you behave.
There is some truth in the Be Yourself mantra but it is missing two words.
Be COMFORTABLE WITH Yourself. This means that when you are at home, the office or out socializing you are in a comfortable state for the most part. However, to be comfortable in situations and with people with whom you are not familiar is a skill. A skill that must be learned. Therefore even learning to be comfortable with yourself is sort of unnatural. This means that 'Be Yourself' is a big fat lie. You must learn how to be comfortable in lots of different social situations. This requires an enormous effort, hundreds of hours of improving your social interactions through direct contact, reflection and feedback.
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