Sexual silence

There's a very interesting point in every interaction just after attraction has been growing steadily. You feel like something is about to happen, it's coming, and then...it does. It's suddenly silent. You seem to have run out of things to say, can't remember routines and the silence creeps in between the two of you.  It gets awkward, tension increases then suddenly shoots up through the roof.  You both feel really uncomfortable.  You look at each other nervously. Then you do one of two wrong things; either you get up and say 'Hey, Why don't you give me your number and we'll see that band you like' or you smather the moment with inane babble / questions.  You're talking again but something just got sucked out of the air between you. She looks at you.  Attraction dwindles and its over.

Miss the moment and you're sunk

What happened here? You felt the uncomfortable moment and then did what you're supposed to do - you fixed it.  Then why did her attraction sink?

She lost attraction because that uncomfortable moment wasn't created from a lack of things to say, rather it was there because the interaction had led to this very point. The point to take action.  It's often hard to detect but the woman knows its there and you're supposed to.

Trying to gloss over this moment or patch it up with chat  is a big mistake and women can be very unforgiving about this sort of thing.

Remember you're job is to lead. You have to take responsibility for everything - including this awkward moment. That silence, when there is attraction, is sexual silence, the moment before the good stuff breaks through. It is a shared moment of intimacy that feels  uncomfortable,  creates a strong feeling of anxiety but is sexual. If you try and ignore it or leave her at that moment you are communicating your fear of sexuality. You have demonstrated that you will not be able to lead her sexually. That is exactly what you project when you dodge the moment.  She will chalk you down as asexual, fearful and will lose attraction for you.

But there's a a simple way to fix it. Hold the moment then kiss her. It doesn't matter if she complies or not but it demonstrates that you are comfortable with sexual tension and you will lead the sex to  places she wants to go.

Confidence, status, authenticity & warmth, social status are important but remember that the number one thing you are trying to project confidence  - will be gone in a puff of smoke if you are not comfortable with sexual tension. You are responsible for what you project. So take care of it.
Sexuality is an iceberg topic because on the surface we demonstrate our virility in the chase, we negate it at these critical moments because of  deeper issues that are related to intimacy.