If you've been around the block you sometimes feel like you've seen it all before, that there's nothing new under the sun, that people are greedy and whatever they do it is out of self-interest. In a word, you're cynical.
I finf this a big turn off and I think others do too. Cynical people come across as self absorbed and narrow minded to me. This subcommunication happens in body language and vocal tone. I feel that they see people as cookie cutters of their past negative experiences and lack the genuine curiousity to find that unique quality in another person. If you have a genuine curiousity and 'love' for other people then that is what is subcommunicated. I love finding out people's desires and passion and what they mean to them. Once a person opens up about what gets them excited, a huge amount of rapport and attraction.
I've been doing this trick since I was a child. Look around the room and glance at each person, as you do,think about that person as a baby or a child or as a mother holding her baby or a father teaching his kid how to read. See them as real people beyond the facade they present. You'll feel a sort of release in your chest, let it happen. I'm doing this right now in a bar and there is a smile on my face from the feeling I've generated inside.
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