Are you that sleazy old guy in the club? Problems when out alone.

'Ewwww!' she says, 'look at that creepy old guy hitting on Ariel!' and in come the drag away police.  This is what, unfortunately,  women will think of you - and worse, when you are out alone and do the wrong things in a club/bar.

Don't be this guy. Alone and ogling girls

Going it alone is hard. Going it alone when you are twice the average age of everyone in the club is extremely hard.  Why go then? A night venue is the coliseum and you are the gladiator.You decide to enter this environment simply because of the large volume of women in the one location where mistakes are made and learned from rapidly. How rapidly? One night of club game equals three months reading books or blogs like this.  Think of it as an exciting solo mission with the opportunity to train in zero sum terrain. You must approach, open and hook mixed sets under extreme conditions. The goal is simple: improve your skills and develop mastery. You're not there (as a beginner)  to pick up women. 

So how do you survive solo club game? It's all about your mental state. The difference between a creep and a winsome individual is that a one exudes confidence and is pushy while a creep is just pushy without any confidence. You can be a sleaze at 20 or 50.  I know a 60 year guy who goes to clubs and is a very cool individual that nearly always end up with an entourage. He's neither rich nor famous nor sleazy, creepy nor wierd. He goes the hell where he wants when he wants and commands respect.

The club is not a place to sit on a couch, have a beer and stare at girls. Don't be a perv, sit alone and ogle, drink alcohol, have an outcome or be needy; you are there to train.  

Or this

Remember, the woman of your dreams will not be met in a club. It's going to happen someplace else, in a supermarket, at a PTA, on the plane - but not in the artificial world of pubs and clubs.  You are there to open sets and work through escalation to get a number, friend, or kiss close, most of which will be worthless. So remember to be in training mode at all times and slap yourself on the back because it takes tremendous BALLS to go out and meet women alone without a wing. What you get out of it is the application of knowledge in the field and is the only way to learn.

So how do you avoid looking like a creepy old guy perving after young girls in a nightclub when you are out alone?

1) Be the guy who is friends with everyone.
How do you be friends with everyone - chat with everyone and anyone.

Or this guy. Look at her Body Language. Creeped out.

 Open mixed sets and disqualify yourself from the females so the males will relax (married, engaged etc). You don't want to appear to be there alone and on the hunt. When I enter a club or bar, I walk straight through without looking around as if I am a) already familiar with the place and b) meeting a 'friend and then open someone with the three second rule.

  The problem with people thinking you are alone and on the hunt is that they will likely project low social value on to you, so just make it look that you are looking for friends, waiting for friends or be in set. Once you start opening sets and this is seen, you will generate plenty of SV because you are friends with everyone. Ironically, being on your own, being confident and not looking like you are out for a lay is a DHV on its own. Women will be impressed by the confidence of a guy who can go out on his own.   Plus, it makes it easier for women to game you.  (See the last para for more on this)


2) Have good strong energy.
Be positive and upbeat and look like you are enjoying yourself. You need to get yourself out of your head and into a state before going into the club. A great thing to do before going out is to take an improv or acting class - anything that is with other people and builds energy.  Remember, when you open a set, you need to have just a little bit more energy than them. My mental state is unaffected by the loud music and energy of the crowd - I bring my own energy in and this makes me a 'little cooler'.  Remember the no outcome rule which means that you should be walking away from sets (at high points) because you are not there to pick them up.

3) Don't drink/take drugs
Get a soda and lime and sip it. When asked, tell people it is a gin and tonic, vodka tonic, whatever. Drink hurts game. The whole point of learning game is that you can approach and create attraction in a woman anytime and anywhere day or night- not just when you and her are drunk.  You'll make too many mistakes when drinking and it doesn't compensate for the false bravado.. Plus you won't learn from your experience because the next day it will all be a blur.  When you can game anytime, the thrill of getting a woman into you when both of you are clean and sober is absolutely awesome and incredibly sexual.

4) Go Early
Get there before midnight (depending on bar closing times in your area) before it gets crowded and people get wedged into groups for the night. Start game in the line because there you can actually talk and be heard. Ask them 'Is x DJ playing here?'   Once inside, game the first girl you see near the door by forcing an IOI and asking her about the venue.


SHE GAME
As mentioned above, going it alone has advantages. So let's talk about that for a second.

Advantage 1) She Game
One of the main ones being that women can approach you! We all know that women instigate ninety percent of approaches with Approach Invitations through IOIs so actually making the approach just depends on how much balls she has.  She will most likely game you by ordering a drink beside you, accidentally meeting you in a line, bumping into you and a ton of other not so subtle girl tricks.

However, if  you are stuck with a bunch of guys and a woman across the room finds you attractive, she's not going to walk in and game you like a player, She'll be forced to wait until you excuse yourself to the gents or go off to buy a drink. Even if you with a wing then her friend will have to be into your bud.

Advantage 2) It's a DHV
 Being alone is a DHV because of the confidence it projects about you. Do you know anyone who saunters out alone into the night to pick up women? It takes balls. So when you are out there alone, realize how cool youa are- because women will sense it.

Advantage 3) You are forced into set
Because you can't hang with friends or a wing like a security blanket and spend ages getting up the courage to enter set, you are forced to play the 3 second rule resulting in more sets and thus a better gaming experience. Think Rugby vs. American Football.